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Caring for Your Home When You’re Overwhelmed

Hilary April 30, 2018

When you’re overwhelmed with life, how in the world can you care for your home? Here are a few suggestions that work wonders!

When you're overwhelmed with life, how in the world can you care for your home? Here are a few suggestions that work wonders!

Life can be overwhelming.

And some seasons of life can feel more overwhelming than others.

What do you do when you’re absolutely swamped with work … with family … with conflict … with commitments … with home?

I know all too well that when you’re feeling overwhelmed with life, caring for your home is one of the first things to slide. It’s only natural.

When everything else is screaming for your attention (sometimes quite literally), it’s easy to forget about your home.

Frankly, that seems right.

Your home is important – and ideally is a haven for you and your family – but relationships are always more important.

People are more important than things (always!) whether you’re dealing with other people or yourself.

When you're overwhelmed with life, how in the world can you care for your home? I have a few suggestions that have worked for me ...

What to do with your home

If your homemaking responsibilities stress you out and your home just doesn’t feel like a haven, you need to find some ways to make changes for the better.

The first step is figuring out what causes you stress.

Is your entire house a mess? Just one room? Just one sort of chore?

Once you’ve figured out what is causing your stress – and it may be a few different things – write it down. Get all of your obligations and responsibilities and homemaking problems out on paper where you can see them.

Consider this a brain dump.

When you're overwhelmed with life, how in the world can you care for your home? I have a few suggestions that have worked for me ...

Now that everything is out in front of you for you to visualize, start to think about possible solutions.

Realistically, what are the worst problems in your home? What are some possible solutions you could possibly use? When could you start?

If you’re short on time and just can’t commit to devoting hours – or days – to issues at home, break your chores into smaller, more manageable tasks. 

Believe me when I tell you that a little bit every day is better than nothing at all.

If your kitchen looks like disaster hit, start cleaning it one drawer at a time. And if you can only fit one drawer in a day, count it a success and don’t sweat the rest – work on just one drawer a day.

This process may end up being a really long one, but slowly you’ll start to take control of your home.

Figuring out what works best for you

Once your home is a little more manageable – and as long as you keep at it, it will get there – start to create some easy systems that will help with your daily chaos.

No matter how hectic life gets, I make sure I do a handful of Non-Negotiable Daily Chores every.single.day. There’s great comfort in looking around your home in the midst of your busyness and overwhelm and knowing that you’ve accomplished something.

In my home, every day I make sure to:

  • Make the bed once I get up in the morning.
  • Wash dishes after every meal (or load the dishwasher).
  • Stick a load of laundry in the washing machine every morning to dry, fold, and put it away throughout the day.
  • Pick up messes and clutter before bed.

This won’t add any deep cleaning to your day-to-day routine, but it will help your home run on auto-pilot while you tend to the busyness of work, family, conflicts, and commitments.

Now that you know what you need to do, slowly work your way through your to-do list, and stick to Non-Negotiable Daily Chores, you’ll be able to care for your home … even when (and especially when) you’re overwhelmed.

When you're overwhelmed with life, how in the world can you care for your home? Here are a few suggestions that work wonders!

How do you manage to care for your home when you’re overwhelmed?

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Hilary Bernstein is a Christ follower, wife, homeschooling mama, and writer who believes every Christian woman can transform her home into a haven. She's happiest when she's hosting friends and family for dinner, going on date nights with her husband, singing along to the radio while driving her kids around, enjoying live performances, relaxing on family vacations at the beach, and spending cozy family nights at home.The author of several books, Hilary loves to encourage her e-mail subscribers!
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Hilary Bernstein is a Christ follower, wife, homeschooling mama, and writer who believes every Christian woman can transform her home into a haven. She's happiest when she's hosting friends and family for dinner, going on date nights with her husband, singing along to the radio while driving her kids around, enjoying live performances, relaxing on family vacations at the beach, and spending cozy family nights at home. The author of several books, Hilary loves to encourage her e-mail subscribers!

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  1. Joy says

    September 4, 2016 at 9:49 am

    Hi Hilary, I love your website. I’ve been subscriber for a few months, but don’t read it regularly. I mostly read certain articles when I have a chance. I read the article on being an overwhelmed housewife. With a full time job and a long commute, I am constantly feeling overwhelmed. I’m too tired to do anything after work. My house is always a disaster. My husband has worked 3 days since November and he doesn’t really feel the need to do housework during the day. He does cook, so that is a blessing. He’s a little bit of a hoarder. We haven’t allowed anyone in our house except for very close family in about 5 years. I have tried to de-clutter but he wants to keep everything. He gets very upset when I throw things away, unless I can show it really is trash. I feel so depressed living in this mess, I try to keep the kitchen and bathroom clean and clutter free, but he goes thrift store shopping and buys extra pots and pans he thinks we need, or were a good deal. I don’t know what to do. I love him and submit to him because Jesus commands it, but I need help. I’m sorry if I sound like I’m venting. I guess I just need to tell someone who understands how hard it is to keep a godly home. I want to bless my husband and bless my home.

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  2. Desi-Ann says

    November 14, 2018 at 5:57 am

    Hi Hilary thanks for these tips. I actually follow some of them currently but I usually fall short in the dishes area. What I’ve started doing a bit more is getting the whole family involved. So I’ve started waking my kids a little earlier to do a chore each before they go to school.

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